Is the grass greener on the other side? Where you water it? Or do you water your own lawn? Each relationship comes with different experiences than the last or potential next. What happens when you’re left empty in your relationship? Needs aren’t being met? Just going through the daily comfort motions afraid to hurt the others feelings. Do you continue to jeopardize your own happiness consuming your life with feelings of others? I’ve come across so many men and women with different viewpoints on this topic.
A good friend of mine and I were talking the other day. He’s happily married, but needs aren’t being met, so my question was “are you really happy if your needs aren’t being met?” His response was, “I just deal with it how I can.” When did we become so used to “dealing” with what we’re not getting? I’m all for fighting for a relationship and making it work, especially if there are kids involved, but I also fully support separating yourself from something or someone that is no longer serving you. My dad explained it to me perfectly: “When you look back and reflect or think about your relationship, how has it enhanced your life? If it hasn’t taught you new things, given you new experiences and made you happy, what are you holding onto?” Now don’t get me wrong, the dating pool is slim pickings, but does that mean we should stay where we’re comfortable if we’re not truly happy?